Stay at home mom

Eve, please don't think that we are just tired complaining old hags. Before I had my baby and while I was pregnant I would also read all these stories and think that either mothers are lazy as hell or just want to complain about everything. I mean "how hard can it be, specially a small baby"

This is what I did. I prepared for the worst (not that you truly can) but I was sure I'd have a colic baby (because the one thing I still need to learn is patience). So I prepared for the absolute worst and anything I got that was just OK was absolutely amazing!

Just don't look back in two or three years time and wonder who this little child is. They learn quickly how to entertain themselves as they grow older so in 1 - 2 years time you'll still get the opportunity to do everything you want.

Thanks ladies

I know I asked for the truth but the positive feedback makes me feel slightly better hehehehhe

I think it depends on what type of person you are.
I have a domestic worker once a week to help with ironing window washing etc.. but I do all daily chores. James is a very alert baby and wants to be held up so he hangs out with me in his kango pouch. This way I can still wash dishes, sweep, dust etc. I've started doing pilates at home with my mom to get my tummy back and have a friend just down the road who I go for speed walks with for fitness (either with a pram or the kango pouch). My baby bag is permanently packed with spare nappies, change of clothes, warm jersey, blanket etc.. so when I need to go out I just plonk James into his car seat and grab the bag (breastfeeding makes this easier)
The only downside is loosing adult stimulation. I have joined a moms group and am doing some peer review work for junior physios to keep my brain active.
I dont think 2 years out of work has to look bad on your CV. I spent 6months travelling around the world and explained the gap as an opportunity to gain insight and understanding into other cultures. As a mom you are showing a dedication to ensuring your children get the bet possible start in life (studies show that children with moms at home are more confident as adults).

Incidently my mom had three children - Me, then 16months later my sister and then 2 years later my other sister, all while staying a home with no help and still managed to finish off her BSc and do a full BAcc through UNISA and went back to work once my youngest sister started preschool (in a better job - she worked as a bank clerk before I was born and went back as an accountant after her BAcc was finished)

I would love to be a sahm> with 3 kids i just cannot afford to.
I enjoy being on m/leave but just miss the dress up part.
Hubby complain that i stay in a trackpants and ponytail.
Now i get help one day a week and its heaven because i dont get to everything between lg 15min naps.
sometimes i am in pj untill 12pm and doing the dishes 30min before hubby get home.everyday is not the same and life can get hectic at home.

But as all the other ladies mention "outside help" does wonders and dont panick now when baby is born you will know what works and what not.
good luck

Thanks ladies

I have a maid who comes in on a Monday to clean the house so at least I won't have to worry too much about that. I will just do a touch up later in the week.

I don't see the point (for lack of a better word), nor do we have the finances, to allow me to stay at home and then still have a full time maid/nanny. The point of me being at home is so that nobody else has to look after our baby.

I do see that it's much harder with a toddler so I'm sure I will be able to cope, seeing as it will just be Connor.

Thanks again

I'm a new sahm and my routine with kyle since about 9 months.

get up at 6 to get LG (11) out of bed and ready for school.

6:15 Kyle wakes up he gets a new diaper,

get Angelique breakfast with Kyle running under my feet.

7 Angelique goes to school with the neighbour

play with kyle till 8 give him bfast, play with kyle till 9:30 new diaper bottle and bed.

Kyle will sleep for 3 hours...clean the kitchen, lounge bedroom bathroom....Kyle wakes up.

watch a bit of dstv while kyle amuses himself running around and climbing over me, run after him because he got hold of the cat food....ooop now he's got the cat by the tail.

2:45 Angelique home from school...get her lunch and started with home work listen to her day while Kyle babbles with.

15:30 hubby gets home...quick hugg and kiss cause kyle is jealous and cry's because daddy hasn't picked him up yet

4:00 start supper with Kyle trying all the knobs of the oven unpacking my pots running after him to get my pot lids...

5:00 Kiddies eat

break up a fight between the 11 year old and the 1 year old....

the 1 year old has the cat by the tail again...

6:30 bath time for Kyle

6:45 get him out of the bath, get Angelique into the bath...make bottles for the evening

7:00 Kyle goes to bed...

Breath

I miss my job....and yet I would not trade it for the world!

U will need help!!!! Its easier with help getting the house cleaned & also taking a shower can b very difficult with baby. My baby still dsnt have a predictable nap times, so I never know how long & when he will nap. He's 31/2 months
I have help fulltime. Got someone who cleans & cooks, I had a nanny who took care of him daily, then in the evenings & weekends it would b my turn. This was gr8 as it gave me time to exercise, get some much needed sleep & basically do whatever I need to do during the day. Now she comes in when I need a babysitter & once a week.
This is my 1st week without her & I still hvnt managed to squeeze in time to exercise. It'll have to b in the weekend when DH is around so he can watch him basically
I too thought I would study this year, but with the way things are going, it wouldnt have worked out anyway.