Congrats Hantielab!!
Neebs, all the best on the search for good Dr. Why don't you use a midwife?
I'm in Joburg. In 2010 with my first son, GP wanted scheduled c-section cos I was thin, he basically diagnosed me with small pelvis weeks before labour. I disagreed, but when labour started he had scared hubby so much we rushed to hospital, they intereffered too much, didn't just leave me to labour, I pushed for 10 minutes and he said I must stop nothing is happening, I'm not kidding you, only 10 minutes, and this is first labour. So I had an emergency c-section. It was horrible, hardly any memories till we got home days later. Lost feeling in my legs 2 weeks after, fortunately I wasn't holding my baby, was stuck on the floor till hubby got home. It was just a blessing that baby was the sweetest thing ever, ate and slept nicely, cos I don't know what I would have done if he maybe had colic.
Late 2011 got pregnant, at 22 weeks early 2012 I miscarried. They were not really sure but assumed it's incompetent cervix. Birthed myself so no surgery was done, thank God.
Got pregnant again so quick, was surprised but so happy. At 19 weeks a cerclage was put in. It was a loooong pregnancy, but not that hard, just had to be forever careful not to strain myself.
Then I decided that I do not want to give birth in hospital, I don't want a Dr, I don't want uneccessary rules that are more for the convenience of the Dr than me. I'm all for reasonable rules and safety measures, but some are just really not called for. So I started seeing a midwife at Genesis Clinic. Wow, for the first time I didn't feel apologetic that I had a c-section and a miscarriage. Don't know how to explain it but it was like I dont' have to keep on explaining myself. The midwife totally didn't make it an issue. At 37 weeks the Genesis emergencies Dr removed the cerclage, he's totally amazing. We thought I'll go into labour latest by 38 weeks. Aaahh guess what, I went overdue hahaha. I was drinking that herbal tea, I was exercising daily, squatting, and was soo big and had the most pointed stomach haha. Nothing. So at 40 weeks midwife said it's fine we'll wait till 41 weeks, but if nothing happens then we'll induce at 41 weeks. One day before 41 weeks I went into labour!! Contractions woke me up around 3. They were manageable, only woke up hubby around 6, called midwife, arranged to go in. Now we lived in the south of Joburg, which meant we had to take the M1 north through the CBD!!! Then I was already bearing down hahaah poor hubby had to stop and ask traffic cops to escourt us hahahaahahaha. Got to Genesis Clinic around 8h30, measured, got in the tub, and it was like aaaahhhhhh waterbirth is the greatest!! Then I over-relaxed

, wasn't pushing effectively, got out of the tub, just squatted down on the birthstool and she was out, it was around 9h30. And she was 3.9kg!! Yet I was too small to birth my son who was 3.4kg...mncccmmm... It was amazing, I was laughing and crying hahahaha. Family and friends are still calling my husband to find out when we are going to hospital and baby is already there. Then they didn't believe that I've given birth cos I was so talkative, I got that energy burst after, it was my husband who was all sleepy haha he looked more exhausted. I couldn't stop talking and laughing

... This was 17 January 2013, best day ever. Now baby is running around with older brother, and starting to talk and potty train, so I'm looking at all this and I'm thinking "I don't have a baby anymore", think I should talk to hubby about number 3