Babies April 2015

Morning ladies

I come here for support too Gloie, I am in the unfortunate place where all my close small group of friends have supportive family, to the point where one of them her mom resigned from work on her own accord to take care of her grandson who saddly was born with a heart defect but she had alsready stated before knowing that , that she was going to stay home with her grandchild. I remember hearing this and my heart aching because I wanted my mom to be supportive maybe not resign but be there and show support but I got the opposite. She keeps asking even now when am I coming down to see them but doesnt want to do the same but she is always out and about at parties and vacations but doesnt see the need to just come up half way to most of her destination to see her daughter and grandchild. Its sad but I have learnt to accept I dont have and will never have that support.
Ahhhhh craving chocolate and cake and sweets and the list is endless:D. In my first and part of my second trimester I hated chocolate cake or anything chocolate, then all of a sudden I want that same chocolate cake, that cadbury mint slab, that lemon juice oh and Oros (which I used to dislike:|), and now PANCAKES, I make them in batches and eat them like crazy even my husband loves them now.lol. I cant wait to see what personality this child will have.
Gloie@ the pains keep coming and going but they not consistent but I just keep hoping its a start of labour. I am bouncing on the birth ball, walking around the house and squating as much as possible lets hope this helps.

Sho, ladies I am surprised to hear I am not the only one with family issues...I think we can all share the sadness of this especially at a time like now. It's so true what RonelleB says about it taking a village to raise a child. I think that is one of the reasons I hang out here frequently in Moomie land, for the support and sense of community. I think we all really need to know I am not alone in this journey and sometimes need some encouragement and advice on the journey (which should have traditionally been given by close family members).

Nels - My LG was also delivered by 38,5 weeks, so I am also pretty sure I will go past that mark too. Can't imagine how frustrated and uncomfortable you must be by now! Hope you can take things easy and that all preparations are in place. How is your son doing? Is he anxious?
My LG has bouts of uncertainty and verbally expresses her concerns whether if I will still love her and if I will forget about her...shame. Trying to spend as much quality time with her as possible to "fill her cup" and reassure her of our love.

Mmm....yes, the period like pain is often the first symptom of start of labour. At least it is a good sign that your body is gearing up for the exciting event. Please keep us updated!!!

RonelleB - Thank goodness for a few selected family members who we can still count on - so grateful for them!!

I didn't know that the belly binder is recommended for natural birth too? I wore mine straight after my c-sec, I would not even consider having a c -section without one, I believe it really helps mobility and recovery A LOT. Pity the Cariwell one is so expensive, my doctor gave me one that cost R160 and does the same thing, but they pre-order it from a medical company.

I can feel myself going crazy just by reading about chocolate and baked goods!!! I dream about cakes of all sorts... I love choc mint anything!!! I have been craving Peppermint crisp tart - oh boy...

Keep well ladies. xx

Shame Nels_n..Hope things happen for you just when it should. Just stay positive and try to relax as much as possible. Try not to think about when baby will come..just keep yourself busy with low energy things.
I am at 34 weeks and I already feel tired and heavy and grumpy.

...yup we are all feeling the family situation. I still remember when my sister went into labour..both times, I drove in the middle of the night from Stellenbosh to George (400km) to be there the next morning. I would do that for any of my siblings. Thankfully my sister is coming to stay with us for a week after baby is born to help me. But my mom wont be able to because my dad cannot survive a day without her...and I can't have my dad and mom staying with us...lol anyways.

Ronelle..also wondering about the belly binder...hmmm
Also starting to want to eat chocolate and all baked delicious goodies. Mainly I want anything with chocolate and mint. choc mint ice cream, choc mint top deck, choc mint mouse, peppermint tart......yum! and also milkshakes. steri stumpie and that amazing full cream woolies strawberry milkshake.

Hello ladies

I see we're all in similar "family" boats! It is not nice, given that I think that our forefathers said: It takes a village to raise a child... Either way, I also try to see the positive in all of this by believing it will make you as a couple so much stronger and bring you closer when you can only rely on each other.

Nels_ I can at this point only try to understand how you feel... I constantly wish for the time to fly by, only to me reminded by my friend that once the bump is gone, I will actually miss it. Mmm... really? I googled due dates and delivery this morning. Came across this site that surveyed pregnant ladies to see when they delivered vs when due etc:

spacefem.com/pregnant/charts/duedate0.php

In short: 39 weeks, 5 days - it takes as long as it takes I guess

Oh and thanks for all the feedback on the stem cell issue... I am still in two minds but I think the bank balance will determine whether or not we actually consider it.

On another interesting FTM note: belly binding... Yes / No? I read all about the benefits after CS, but after normal birth? Anyone?

Last note of this reply, just cause I think I have to say it and not live in denial... I have not had any cravings during this pregnancy, as in none, nada... EXCEPT I now feel like I have to devour all the chocolates in the world and any / all baked confectionery items I can find... It is driving me WILD!!!

Hello Ladies

Gloie@ I know, unfortunately we dont all have great families and I have grown to accept it as much as it hurts when you realise you need them but wont get the support.
I too have accepted that bonding with my husband and son is what I need , I dont know what I would do without my dh. The poor man never complains, he just keeps making sure everything that needs to be done gets done.
I just keep telling myself I have one week left even though I know it might be up to 3;(. I actually realized this is the longest I have been pregnant, Amara was already about a week+ by this time so it feels like a first pregnancy:|, I dont know what to expect, I keep having mild period like pains but again dont know what to make of it as I am new to this waiting for him when he is ready thing.
How are you ladies doing today, everyone is quiet lately.

Hi Ladies,

StarryEyed - how are doing today??
Newbiemom - Hope you are doing well, haven't heard from you in a long time?!

Nelsn - Sounds as if we are in the same boat with our family situation. So sorry to hear that your own mother thinks that you should pack up and leave your home and family behind to come and stay with her with the new baby - it is not supposed to be that way, my heart aches for you. It helps me to know that there are are other people out there with dysfunctional family situations, sometimes it feels as if it is just me who doesn't have close-knit family structures, especially when it comes to grandparents. All of this motivates me even more to have a close connection and attachment with my kids and husband, even it means financial/career sacrifices to be with my kids.

You are so close to the end of your journey - so frustrating that it can still be 3 more weeks?! I was telling my husband that it such a big gap that baby can take to arrive, it is basically anything from 38 - 42 weeks! So much for a specific "due date" given by that fancy sonar machine?!!

Hope the indigestion clears up soon. xx

Morning ladies

how are you doing?
The work issue is a headache as colleagues seem to think you MUST finish a years work in a month, unrealistic expectations seem to come out of the wood work when you pregnant.
Family, that is tough. I am in the same boat and Gloie it does feel sad and at times painful. Dh family is close but would not even leave one of our dogs with them. I have come to the acceptance that I will be alone with dh again with this babe too. My mom asked if I was going to come down after baby and when I said no seemed taken aback. Confusing to me how she would think I would pack myself and a newborn to stay at an empty house with no support:/ and leave my family. She can drive and take leave and come up to me but that seems to be "unfair" to her but not me.
Stem cells, no I didnt do it with Amara and wont do it now.
I have been up since the early hours of the morning suffering with indigestion ;(. It seems I have a long day ahead of me.
39.1weeks and I am extremely uncomfortable. Getting up and doing the smallest task is a mission. This baby might end up being and April baby the way he is so comfy in there:).
Ronelle@ glad you had a safe trip back home.
Starreyed@ how are you?
Faffy@ once you become a parent you start realising your career automatically takes a back seat. It just works out at the end and there is no rule in the book of how to go about juggling it. You just know its priceless.