Due August 2018

Hi Ladies, I have been quiet recently but I still read the posts. So happy to hear everyone is doing so well.
I have been having an emotional rollercoaster of a month! I would like to type it out, so if I do write an essay and you get tired of reading....please just ignore me.

So first things first! My MFM appointment in the beginning of the month went really well. Both girls are measuring the exact same as a singleton baby would. Absolutely no abnormal markers at all! So they are healthy and normal and BIG! I am grateful for that!

Hubby and I have been fighting a lot. We just don't agree on anything lately, especially the twins. We have had a very bad week where silent treatment was on the top of our list! I just wanted this pregnancy to go away. It just caused so much stress and tension in my marriage. I went through another bad stage of depression and that's why I didn't want to post anything here.

We finally started with the house by moving my eldest into a different room and clearing some space for the babies. I'm still not done with the nursery, but slowly getting there. My mom and stepdad will be decorating and painting the nursery over the weekend when we are away at the Kruger National Park. I have also gone through the toys and clothes that we will be taking to the orphanage.

I attended the twin seminar on Saturday and some of the speaker had so many good tips and advice! I just wish I could remember everything! I emailed the lady and asked her to please send me the tips she discussed. It was really interesting!

So I have been feeling very offish because I cant speak to hubby about anything. He seems to jump down my throat over anything small. I wanted to buy 2 camp cots that were on special on TakeAlot but he refuses to buy two. He's saying we only need 1 and we can borrow another one. That doesn't make sense to me. First of all, it wont look nice because it will be two different cots. I want it to look the same.
My feelings are, I have been having to put up with second & third-hand stuff from my first daughter because we didn't have money then to buy new things. Meaning that my second daughter also got the hand me downs from my eldest. So I didn't really have any new things other than some clothing etc. We bought a new pram for DD2 because the second hand one we got was so worn out after it went through 3 kids and my eldest.

Now we got a second hand twin pram from friends (its the most basic one and very worn and damaged) but it will have to do. I will be using blankets in the pram anyway. So I was very sad when DH fought with me because I wanted the camp cots that were R1000 each. I didn't even want him to buy it! I will pay for it myself!
Anyways, I sent the pic to my mom seeing as she will be doing the nursery and I wanted to know if the colour will be fine, and she just said they have another idea. So long story short, my stepdad and mom bought 2 of these camp cots from takealot as a gift!
My DH doesn't know yet and I know he is going to be furious because he doesn't like it when people buy us stuff! He even lost his temper with my mom because she wanted to throw him a nappy party!

Anyways, there is so much negativity doing the rounds at the moment that I just try to avoid conflict and keep to myself.

From a physical point of view, I am huge! I am waddling like a duck. The round ligament pains are uncomfortable. My legs are killing me. Also struggling to sleep, but I do have some extra energy sometimes. I think it might be the nesting kicking in.
Other than that, the girls are busy! I only feel the movements on the right side mostly, but it's full blown kicks and jabs!

When I went for my 22 week appointment my gynea told me that she will not be giving me a C-section date because she's thinking that I might not be able to carry until then. She kept it at my due date of around 19 July. She mentioned that she will be giving me a letter for work from about 30-32 weeks to be on bed rest because babies are measuring so big. She said I will be getting a lot bigger now and she's sorry but it will get worst for me so I need to prepare.But we will be monitoring their growth and if their growth does slow down a bit, I can still work a few hours a day. So I am planning to be on "bed rest" or "flexi hours" at work from end of May and then officially go on maternity leave end June. Gynea just laughed at me when I said end June and said it's wishful thinking but lets take it one week at a time.

Sorry for the essay, Ladies.

Hey guys, hope everyone is well, sorry I've been a bit quiet, its a bit of a strange time at the office right now. There is a new big boss and he seems to want to introduce some pretty hectic changes to how we do things and its making for a pretty uncomfortable atmosphere at the office.

Anyway, how is everyone doing? We had a nice weekend with 2 Easter egg hunts for our boys, they had a great time. I also went into our boys toys this weekend and packed a box to take the orphanage that we support, have probably at least another box of stuff for them too. We also took the boys to go see the slues gates open at Hartebeespoortdam. They apparently opened all of them last week, and on Saturday they still had 3 open, quite impressive. I said to my husband, if you fall over there, I hope your affairs are in order b/c you are sure as hell not coming back from that one! We have our scan tomorrow morning, looking forward to seeing our little girl again.
Other than that, not much to report. Honestly think I look more pregnant than I should, but then I also remind myself this is my 3rd and I am not exactly young anymore and both of those contribute to me being bigger...at least that is what I tell myself

Hope everyone is doing well otherwise

PS: has anybody ordered anything from Wish for baby? I have ordered other things from there and yes it takes time to come, but has come every time, and if its for baby, not like i need it tomorrow! Anybody decide any any theme's for the nursery?

Hi Chanti,

I am here. Just a tad bit on the tired side. I haven't been getting great sleep the past week. If its not discomfort, it is weird dreams. and over the weekend I managed to walk around 10km collectively, so I am super pooped today.

My tummy is growing by the day, so proud of it! I am also confident that I am feeling baby moving around at times.

My MIL is so excited for the new addition, she is already buying gifts. I am so grateful that our baby will have at least one set of grandparents who love him and are excited for his arrival. My mom and I don't speak much, and I saw her at the mall the other day and she chose to walk the other way and pretend she didn't see me when she actually did. I'm just feeling a bit down as I always think that things will change with her, but she never seizes to surprise me. This makes me question if I will be a good mom and if I will be able to be different. All I have is my MIL, luckily she is amazing and very loving and supporting.

Other than that, no new news. I am having my 20 week sonographer visit on the 11th, looking forward to seeing our boy again.

How is everyone else doing?

Where are all of you?????

@Carien - I will try load some using the app on my phone! It was hard to stay team green but we stayed strong for sure.Let us know when you book your app! Such an exciting one Ah I absolutely love nice bath things, its so very relaxing. Your hubby sounds like an absolute darling and its so sweet that he is getting excited with you. What a special time xxx

So ladies.... Are you also experiencing crazy discharge? I often find myself googling the difference between amnio fluid and discharge as it creeps me out totally! I'm having one of those days where i feel like its more than usual but I'm also weeing alot today so might be a combo of everything making me freak out. I know I have freaked out a bit before and I just monitored and it was just one of those odd days where its a bit more than usual but it doesnt mean when it does happen you aren't freaked out!

Hello ladies, hope everyone is well.

I actually logged in earlier today with the intention to reply just have not yet.

@Chanti - so happy your scan went well. AND going thru a detailed scan like that and still staying team green is really REALLY commendable! Hope you got some good pix of your LO, do share some

How is everyone else doing? Anybody else going for scans soon? I am due to go for my 20 week scan this week/early next week, just need to get an apt. I canceled my apt with the MFS b/c my doc does not feel we need to go see them right now, she is sending me to a specialized sonographer and if she sees something that does not look right then we will go to the MFS.

Other than that, not really much going on this side, my husband is home (thankfully) and he really is just the sweetest man. So he went and got me some nice bath products from a place called Lush, I have never gone into the store, but a lady at his office who is also pregnant told him about it and he got some nice things from there. Had a lovely bath with pink bubbles on saturday . He also wants us to celebrate my pregnancy more now that I am not vomiting my lungs out every day any more, so wants to start doing the weekly bump pix and he is giving the baby a gift every week which is very cute. I am still having a hard time with the intimacy thing in that I really just am not in the mood and feel bad b/c I know he has needs and is still my husband and I am still his wife and he still wants me (which I think is the part that I find the weirdest b/c my body is totally different - but he sees it as a very positive thing - I just need to start feeling that way...). He is being very understanding, but I need to get my head sorted out around this and just get in a better space about being intimate in my body that is not mine at the moment. Anybody else have some insight here? What are you doing? How are you feeling?

Hope everyone is doing well otherwise, hope you have a nice week!

Hey ladies!

How are you all??

@Carien - How are you and the kids? We have had an awful tummy bug going around that has been affecting kids really badly, a couple being hospitalised in the end! Did you survive your week without hubby?

AFM, I went for my 20 week scan on Friday and it was so amazing! You get to see so much detail on baby. Everything is still going well and baby looks perfectly healthy. It was so wonderful seeing so many lovely images of baby, so excited to meet this little bundle! The next 4 months can just fly already! I went and got some maternity pants too as my jeans were so uncomfortable, I'm feeling less like a stuffed sausage now at last.