Bullied at school - now insecure

Jojo I suggest you call the paed or see the paed. Usually you can just email them. They are the best at directing you to the best people for your child when it comes to certain issues.

Sorry to hear about bully.

OT's are great for anxiety disorders (and not just physical therapy as most of us think) so I suggest keeping and see what happens?

I suggest waiting outside the school for bully, taking him aside and telling him if he doesn't stop this crap immediately you will turn his winky into an earthworm!!!!!! Wear a disguise.

Good luck!

Thank you Memo xxx

I have tried so hard to be there for him, took him to the movies over the weekend (which he normally loves) and he asked me in the middle of the movie if we could go home as he doesn't like being away from home so long and is worried about daddy and his brother!

Thanks Julz, do you think I should rather cancel and look for a play therapist?

I am not clued up at all when it comes to therapists....

My only suggestion would be to be there, where?, THERE as much as you can, until he's calm again. That and if you can afford it, a little bit of therapy I suppose, just to make sure you're not missing anything and that your child has the neccessary skills for standing up for himself.
I'm sure the other ladies will have loads to add.

I'm so sorry your child has to breath the same air as such an awful child! I also worry about how to handle this sort of thing. Please let us know of all success you have on this. As I'm sure it will all turn out fine.

Perhaps just reassure him that he has done the right thing telling you and the teacher and now the neccessary steps are being taken and he can relax, as it's all being taken care of. Empower him.
Explain that 'buddy with the knife' was very silly because now he's in big trouble! And everybody will be watching him to make sure he is staying away from your child. And then just follow up with the school on this, to make sure they are taking it as seriously as your son is.

Best of luck xxx

I am not sure what the ot will do but it is a good start.

Ideally he should see a therapist who has knowledge in such things. Maybe play therapy etc.

I think you are doing the right thing though as you have realised how seriously being bullies is and how it can impact a childs life for the rest fo their life.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

Long story short:

My LB will be 7 in a few days and he has always done well at school always loved going to school except for the last few weeks...

We recently found out that he has been bullied at school which I have addressed and I am waiting for feedback from the school after they have met with the parents of the bully.

Lately every day is a crying game with different excuses why he cannot go to school. They seem to be getting worse and worse with the latest that I will be killed at work and then no one will be able to fetch him from school. (the bully did tell him he was going to kill my son with a knife until the blood comes out and then he will do the same to me and DH) Yes, this is out the mouth of a 6yr old child!

He just seems to be so insecure and anything that is unfamiliar is a huge battle. Last week he had sports day and it was such a drama as he needed to go on the school bus with the entire class to the sports field and he was petrified I/DH would forget and leave him there! We have never ever left him anywhere and this insecurity is really starting to worry me.

I have made an appointment with an OT this week as I just do not know what to do anymore. What can I expect from the OT?