Re: New Mommies to be May, June & July 2011

TaNasha, so sorry to hear! I think with the ultrasound they can only see the lip and it might only be a cleft lip and not the palate as well. And even if it is, the surgical procedures for it have advanced so much that they really do a lot for these kids. If there is some other chromosomal abnormality (depending on what it is) I can understand termination, but no need if it is "only" cleft lip and / or palate. Yes, there are issues with feeding and speech, but there really is a lot they can do. And don't get upset by the pictures. Go and google post operative pictures, then you will see how well they can fix it.

*Hugs* x 1000

I had my 20 week scan this morning and got some bad news.

Baby has a clep lip? (haaslip) an dit might be open through to the jaw. They want to send me for an amnio to rule out any chromosonal abnormalities. I dont know what to think.

I am scared of the amnio and even more scared of what teh outcome might be. They said i had until 23 weeks tod ecide if i want to terminat the pregnancy?? I would never do that just for a haaslip, but if there;s anything else more serious wrong Im not so sure anymore.

I have googled the haaslip and the images are quite disturbing. I have been crying non stop.

I keep wondering if it was something that i might have done.

I have cancelled my trip to SA as they amnio will need to happen ASAP because it needs to be done before 22 weeks.

I dont know what to think. I already love this baby so much

OMW! Think I am gonna do something totaly crazy! Like enrolling at unisa for National Certificate in accounting. At my ripe age of almost 27! Gonna be tough with a newborn. But what the heck. I need to do this! To save my sanity, and not be JUST a housewife!

Is anyone considering hypnobirthing? I'm freaked out by pain but I want a quick recovery after the birth so am trying to find another option to csec!! Hypnobirth sounds fantastic!

Hi Ladies

Solo its the best to get someone to do the UIF thingys for you rather than standing in those long ques.

Esmari sorry about your foot but rest rest rest....

try this my baba also doesnt allow dh to feel his kicks but what i do is when he starts kicking i would put my hand on my tummy and talk to him and then i slowly take dh's hand and place it on my tummy with my hand still on and then dh feels his kicks but nothing what mummy feels...hehehehe

TaNasha hope you enjoy your holidays

Hi there

Foot still sore. So lying around today. And I hate it! Got stuff to do! Still have lots to pack!

Solo, I have the same with my kids. Baba lets daddy feel the kicks, but not 'ouboet' and 'ousus'. He stops kicking when they want to feel, and when they take their hands away, kicks again! Tried it again just now!

Betty_F, nice size!

Ok, so there is a lady in town that is a week behind me. She also had 2 csections. Her doc just told her yesterday that she would let her go vaginally, cause recent studies showed that it can be allowed! But she decided against it, as she has MS, and apparently that makes it more dangerous, as her MS can flare up again.
I just hope the state will allow me a trial of labour, as this is a private doc, and I dont have finances to go private. At least I know I have someone I can turn to.

Esmari - how are you feeling today?

MsDee - thinking about you and praying for you.

TaNasha - enjoy your scan and then if we don't hear from you we will know that you are on the flight - and then after that you should have a mouthful of biltong How long are you in SA for?

Betty_F my next antenatal class is tomorrow night. BF isn't going with me - I told him not to worry as it is far for him to drive after work and I doubt that there would be anything new for him to learn. He did say he would join me, but I know him...he would start "teasing" me "breathe....puuuuush" ect!!!! lol He has been there and done that, so even though times have changed in the 14 years since his son was born, the basics stay the same for the father. I did ask the midwife who was giving the classes whether it was necessary for him and she said it's not really - esp as he has already done this. And I'm ok with it as well.

Noelene I'm going to go with Little Miracles UIF - I'm going to sign up with them today. They have a special on if you register in March. I had better not waste any more time...

Talking about time. Last week I was huffing and puffing and uncomfortable and just aaarrggghh with feeling my bump taking over. I get claustrophobic and I get a similar feeling when I can't breathe or move with my bump. This feeling hits every few weeks when there seems to have been a growth spurt and then I get used to it until the next growth spurt. Anyway, there I was, huffing and puffing and BF said "Ag my vroutjie, are you uncomfortable? What are we going to do with you for the next six months?' I burst out laughing. "Six months? You gotta be kidding me. Sweetie I only have 3 1/2 to 4 months left MAX" BF went pale!!!! Brilliant. And he probably thought I was just getting fat....

And then when BF wants to feel the baby kick - baby stops. My mom as well - she puts her hand on my bump and he stops kicking immediately. This morning BF had his hand on my bump while he thought I was still sleeping but baby was quiet. Then once I got up to go to the bathroom and came back to bed, he started kicking and I took BF's hand and put it on my bump and just told him to keep it there for a while. Little bugger stopped kicking