LADIES DUE SEPTEMBER 2015 :-)

I assumed MIL was man in my life....but I can see that in this context Kiara probably meant her mom-in-law! Sorry!

btw guys, anybody have any natural safe remedies for ridding water retention?

i dont have any but just in case...

i used to drink Dandelion tea. apparently its safe ... not 100% sure tho?

Morning Ladies...

Somehow i think we all have that inner strength and it comes out when it needs to... we cant imagine going through certain circumstances but we can do it ... Its part of being a woman!

Dieswartkat, i tend to share your sentiments... i also think we must do whats right for us!

btw MIL is man in my life or Mother in law?? i assumed Mother in law

TCS84, thanks for sharing your story. That gives me goose bumps. Going through all that normal delivery stuff is still fine if you know you'll be holding your baby on the other side of the drama. In your case...well, I'm not sure I could have survived that mentally. To be frank, I think the idea of a long labour is what's putting me off more than the physical pain. That's primarily why I'm anti normal deliveries.

Kiara, I've come across the argument of the "easy way out" so many times in my life! People who are pro-normal will often defend their decision by making you feel bad about yours. And vice versa, I guess. As someone who has been through a C-section, I just want to say that it isn't easy. Sure, the actual delivery is much easier, but the recovery is really hard. It's a major abdominal surgery and it hurts like the devil. You are physically impaired for at least 2 weeks, can't sleep because no position is comfortable, etc.

Also...I'm sure your hubby is a decent guy, but I would never let any guy's opinion on the issue bother me. It's easy to talk when it's not your body. Most men can't even handle the idea of a vasectomy, a tiny little surgery, so don't let him influence your decision. Your body, your call.

The lady who did our ante-natal classes said a very true thing that will always stay with me: you fell pregnant to have a baby, not to give birth. Don't get too caught up in the delivery, it's only a steppingstone. I think she meant that to comfort moms who were hell-bent on normal delivery and then had to have a C-section in the end. But it's wise words and true for all of us

My philosophy in terms of delivery is to do what's right for you (as the mom), because it's the last time in your life that you will be able to make a decision for yourself first, after the birth everything is about the baby first. The baby is going to be fine either way, so think about yourself first and do what you want.

kiara dont listen to your MIL... each to their own. i personally dont think it makes you less of a woman just because you are having a c sect. you have still carried that baby through 9 months!! and felt every bit of being pregnant!!
modern medicine is so amazing... it gives us the chance to decide whats right for us... i know of people who had natural births and it traumatised them so much that they only had 1 kid! had they gone c sect that would never have happened... so again.. each to their own. back in the day ( our MIL) days, they never had a choice really!
Now we do... and we are smart enough to know whats right for US...

TCS84, that's amazing. You're one strong woman.

I've also seen those video, but to be honest, natural birth never had an appeal for me. Having seen my sister go through it twice and needing stitches because she tore "down under", I was pretty certain of my choice. My MIL thinks I'm less of a woman for opting for the "easy way out" and I say, hey-ho, good for you.

My girl's birth was beautiful (if a little hurried). Because it was an emergency, I can't honestly say that I recall the pain at any point. I had her at 11h50 and by lunch the next day, I walked to the bathroom for a shower. Yes, there's a few things I'll be doing differently this time around though... lessons learnt.

ask away... im strong enough to talk about it now...

it was a normal delivery...
they insert tablets up there to start the dilation process... then give you morphine injections and then you wait..

the morphine made me drowsy initially but once the labour pains started the drowsyness went away...

so i was in labour for 10 solid hours... the pain meds didnt help or work. i didnt sleep a wink that night. i was walking to the loo instead of using a bedpan which apparently was shocking because i had so much meds i should not of even been able to walk.

my water broke and about 30 mins after that i delivered a beautiful baby girl...

i try to remb wat the pain felt like but i cant. i just know it was horrific... my husband stayed the night.
to put things into perspective, i was apparently asking for a gun to shoot myself cos i wanted to die from the pain.. lol i laugh now because im strong enough to do it.. but it wasnt funny back then ..

a part of my heart will always be empty for her.....