Feb-May 2011 Mommies

Hi ladies

Thank you all so much for being here for me - you honestly have no idea what that means to me and how you keep me stable!
I appreciate all the comments, thoughts and advice xx
I really hope DH realises this is not a game. I think one of our biggest problems is that in the french culture, they dont have kids until they are in their 30's - and he feels like he is so young to be 'ending his social life'. Well, as BettyF said, we use to party a lot and socialise a lot. And trust me - there are days I CRAVE going partying - so badly that sometimes I wish he was born so I could leave him with a babysitter and go out (chances are I'll never do this once he's actually here though!!). But ya...he is not alone in feeling scared of losing his social life. The thing is, for me, I feel like I now have a responsibility and this is my new life and that is that. Whereas for him - it feels to me that he thinks, yes, Meags has a new responsibility now, but he can still go out. If that is the case, he must realise that I will never see him as a real Dad....
I guess I'll be skyping him soon - quite curious to see what he thinks of the 'novel' I sent him

Claire -- ooohh you got a bi-lobular placenta!!!! We are ALWAYS so intrigued when we deliver a placenta like that as they are not that common There isn't really anything significant about it....just that instead of the placenta being round or oval, it has 2 separate rounds or ovals that remain 'complete' by the membranes. Really, in a vaginal delivery, we would just make sure that each lobe is complete and that nothing broke off inside.
other than that...there isn't much to it!! But it's still cool

Claire I have thought quite a lot about mentioning something to my midwife. I'm so silly though as if I am not feeling down at that particular moment, I forget to bring it up. I remember at around 20 weeks wanting to ask for something as I really felt sad - but also never ended up doing it. Maybe I must write it on my list of questions and just ask for it next visit.

Tazzy so glad to hear everything is going so well for you!!! That is really awesome. And WOW on 56cm!!! That is flippin tall!!!! You got a model in the making

Karin - I agree. I will not walk out this marriage before trying everything. Even if that does mean maybe going to stay with my mom or a friend for a month or so to make him realise this is serious. I often think that when I have these talks with him, he thinks I just feel that way because I'm tired/hormonal/lonely or something. So I am a bit concerned he'll blame this time on feeling lonely here, being close to delivery etc.
4 more sleeps for you before you bring another princess onto our thread!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and yes - then it is a bit of a wait to see who is next. I reckon Faw (we never hear from Driekie anymore ) and perhaps Lucy could be before Anje and I depending on her c-section date and if Anje and I go post dates!!

Schatsie that pain sounds so sore I really feel sorry for you. It is so horrible to have a pain that nothing relieves!!! I feel VERY sorry for myself when I have the rib or back pain and I almost start becoming hysterical when I cant make it stop! It is really sweet that your DH is so concerned about you - mine doesnt even give me a second glance!

Cath - my parents got divorced and my mom met a man who is nothing but perfect. Never in my life have I met a man who is so kind, considerate, caring and loving. And yes, obviously the divorce was horrible etc. But my mom ended up with a man who is a much better husband than my dad was and she is so much happier! I really want to have that without needing to be divorced!! I want my first marriage to be as wonderful as that!

Hehe re you crying over not enough fish! oh my gosh you are so sweet! Dont be hard on yourself allow the tears to flow and dont be surprised how it seems never ending!! it will come to an end soon and glad you got through the bathing!! I have to admit that I am so glad to be experienced with newborns as at least when M screams during the bath time, it wont upset me! I remember teaching a mom how to bath a baby (at the orphanage so it wasnt even her own baby!) and she cried as much as the baby throughout the bathing!! The baby was crying (because thats just what they do!!) and she was hysterical that he wouldnt stop and she thought she was doing something wrong and hurting him and kept apologising to him. shame - I hope when her baby was born she managed!!!

Faw congrats on your son wanting to potty train and good luck with it!!!

It's so sweet. Bling really knows me. For the last 3 weeks he has slept on the couch during the night - but since DH first upset me when he left for Germany, Bling has spent every night on the bed right up against me. And he has stayed there the whole night. Whenever I am sad or crying, Bling sits with me. They are amazing things animals!

Aaah Kimika the angel kiss for the valentine baby!! Do send more pics when you can! Thanks for the encouragement re the crying LOL! My mom just left so I'm here on own with lo and it's actually lovely it's damn hot today though but it's actually really nice just us 2. Wililam is sleeping now but about to get up and I'm catching up on bills, friends, emails etc m-in-law popping in soon so much get some rest!!
cathm
x

Joli -- 18 January ~Callum~ 2.16kg
Kimika -- 14 February ~Reuben~ 2.9kg 50cm
Cath -- 21 February ~William~ 2.67kg
Jessica -- 1 March ~Riley~ 4.35kg
Tazzy -- 2 March ~Amelia~ 3.7 56cm


:

KarinM -- 7 March *cesarean birth* *little girl* ~Kiana Isabelle~
Driekie -- 16 March *little boy* ~Eoin~
Emsmom -- 17 April *vbac* *keeping gender a secret*
Fawhaway -- 25 March *natural birth* *little boy*
Meags -- 27 March *natural birth* *little boy* ~Matthieu~
Anje -- 27 March *little girl* ~Lianey~
Lucy -- 4 April *cesarean birth* *little girl* ~Tessa Amelie~
H-buzz -- 4 April *little boy*
Carla -- 4 April *cesarean birth* *Little boy* ~Sebastian~
Hlise -- 8 April *cesarean birth* *Little girl* ~Danika~
Areej -- 10 April
Karen -- 12 April *cesarean birth* ~Francois Charl~
Meemo -- 14 April
Newyum mum -- 15 April *Little boy* ~Jaiden~
Mommy-jess -- 17 April *natural birth* ~Joshua~
Mistymom -- 22 April *natural birth* *keeping gender a secret*
Schatsie -- 21 April *cesarean birth* *little boy* ~Arno~
ClaireC -- 27 April *cesarean birth* *little boy*
BettyF -- 29 April *little girl*
Rakker -- 5 May *natural birth* *little girl*



NEXT SCAN APPOINTMENTS:

Carla - 5 March @
Schatsie - 7 March
Lucy - 11 March @ 37wks
Schatsie - 22 March
Schatsie - 4 April
Schatsie - 11 April
Schatsie - 18 April



GUESSING GAME:

Meags: weight @ birth = 3.8kg
Kimika:weight @ birth = 3.3kg >> was out by -400g
Emsmom:weight @ birth = 4kg
Mistymom:weight @ birth = 3.6kg
h-buzz:weight @ birth = < 3kg
Joli:weight @ birth = 2.9kg >> was out by -800g
Lucy:weight @ birth = 3.2kg
Tazzy:weight @ birth = 3.2kg >> was out by +500g
Driekie:weight @ birth = 3.3kg
KarinM:weight @ birth = 3.2kg
Anje: weight @ birth = 3.4kg

Meags, I hope your hubby has taken your conversation seriously. REally.. he can now almost stop his drinking and start living the adult responsible life he should be. He is acting like a real student living the carefree life! And leaving you home alone worrying and upset My heart bleeds for you.. I hope somewhere soon he will realise what he is choosing above whats the real important things in life.. empty socialising.. really! I hope he takes the time out of his *busy* schedule to read your letter!! *hugs*

But glad you now have a friend that side, also looking forward to hearing from you on how that mom copes with all those kids!! I think we are going to have to get some tips from her

Tazzy, ahhh thanks for coming to update us!!! Sooo happy you had a great birth experience And well done on a speedy recovery!! Ag please come post some more piccies.. I wanna see more of her!!! Ahh little Hannah is going to have such fun with her little sis.. such an angel

Faw, hope you find a suitable home for your dad.. shoo they are expensive!! Congrats on your son making the big step towards potty training!! Mine is still miles away from that and Ive decided to wait until after winter or until he def decides to do it himself.

Claire, Ive heard of the placenta tearing but no idea what the consequences are of it? But sounds like your little guy is still doing great

Schatsie, shame man..hope that pain goes away.. its prob your little son grinding away at your pelvis

Jessica, ahh the boys are so cute together.. nothing like sibling love hey

Cath, you gotta love bathtime hey! So cute how they cry when naked and the moment they feel that loveley warm water they just relax and stare Yip your crying spell over the fish sounds exactly like hormones sorting out where they should be

My MIL was just here for her first visit to see Reuben, shame she was desperate to see him And ofcourse her verdict is also that he looks like me! yipee

Reuben has this little red mark on his eye and when it didnt dissapear after birth I did some research. So its a salmon patch A birthmark that dissapears sometime during his first year. Another name for it is angel kiss.. so I guess him being a Valentine baby would call for an angel kiss? hehe

aah tazzy I'm so happy for you! Sounds like a brilliant experience! And jessica what beautiful children!!

Meags, glad you wrote the letter. Like Schatsie I've been married before and I can tell you a good marriage consists of all the things you mention - good sex life, mutual respect, consideration, care, love, a feeling of being prioritised - and it's not unusual to have these things happen like 95% of the time. The difficult times should be absolutely minimal - that's been my experience in my second marriage to the right person.

Schatsie you poor thing the pain sounds awful and you sound very very brave!!!

KarinM you next!!!!

Gosh it's such a miracle! My mom and I just bathed william (mainly me but she was at hand) it's quite tricky!!! he remains the most beautiful baby so lovely hardly ever ever cries loves to sleep LOL and when awake kicks his arms and legs around like a mad thing! looks around constantly and sure he recognises me! my dh remains utterly enchanted it's too cute to see them together!!! his little face is fililng out so nicely and he is STRONG!!!! hold onto things so tightly!!! I love his face and his little sounds!!!

I had a crying jag last night just started crying over something ridiculous my mom didn't make enough fish (!!!) for supper same as Mon night just started crying and didn't stop for about half an hour but it felt more physical than emotional i.e. that it was a physical release or rebalancing cause really feel ahppy and mostly relaxed I think my hormones are getting back on track I did google it and they said first 2 weeks is biggest adjustment hormone wise and normal to just cry so if anyone else feels that it's ok!

OUr house is full of flowers and love and everything looks so beautiful! So grateful!!!

Cathm
x

KarinM nope it's not sciatica, the pain is not in my back (although I do have that most of the time too), this pain is much lower down, at the bottom of my pelvis. From what I've read it seems to be SPD/Symphysis pubis dysfunction and there is really nothing I can do about it, except take Paracetemol.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Symphysis_pubis_dysfunction

Hmm after Karin we have quite a wait until 16 Mar for Driekie and then another 10 days before Faw, Meags and Anje. Sigh! April has far more births - unless we have some more early babies.

Driekie -- 16 March *little boy* ~Eoin~
Fawhaway -- 25 March *natural birth* *little boy*
Meags -- 27 March *natural birth* *little boy* ~Matthieu~
Anje -- 27 March *little girl* ~Lianey~