Babies April 2015

Went for a 10 week vac on wednesday and k has gained alot he is at 5.62kg, it was comforting to see the weight and conformation that bf him is a great decision after getting horrible comments from my mom one of them being that "I am feeding my son a dirty boob a bottle with formula is better" to "my milk it too weak i must give K purity;(" explaining the benefits doesnt seem to help. Its upsetting. Enjoy your morning ladies

Newbie@ how is baby doing?
Faffy@ it seems a previous cs adds a risk. Please dont feel bad about the feelings you have. Even as a second time mom I get that at times. And now it seems my 5year is going through a growth spurt so when he comes home from school he is hungry, so it seems I am having to boys who are constantly hungry:/. The cleaning the house part hmmmm, I do it one day at a time. Dishes during sleeps or nap or when he seems quiet, then floor every other day. Washing at night so its hanged before hubby goes to work or he hangs it. Eating that needs a plan.

Morning ladies

Glad to hear from you mummys.
Gloie@ it is so upsetting to hear that the Gynea said that and didnt give you that information. Its an extremely high percentage. I had cbac but a very loooong labour and to find out a long laboured vbac is another cause is frightening as no gynea or gp or midwife tells you this its only scares about the uterine rupture which is about 1%. I will keep praying for you, we serve and amazing God, I am proud of you for talking it and letting other moms to be aware. How is your big girl doing? Is the adjustment getting better?

Shame gloei. That is really horrible. Can't believe the doctor can't tell you. That's a big percentage! So can it happen if you're not having natural but not VBAC?

I am much better today. My boy was great last night and after I cried on hubby's shoulder and told him how i feel, I started feeling better and today I feel good again. I just feel like after pregnancy and birth in feel like a different person..Someone i still need to get to know. Obviously my whole life and lifestyle has changed so much.
It's definitely not depression, I think the eglonyl might be keeping that in check. I was just exhausted and frustrated. I would never hurt my baby and have never felt like I wanted to. My dogs that bark all Damn day on the other hand... lol kidding.
We didn't even need to top baby up last night, he was happy and sleepy. Today I am just going to stay in my pajamas on purpose and watch movies on the couch and relax. Baby seems to be relaxed today. Also working hard on my burping techniques which seem to be helping.

Hi Ladies!!

Nelsn - Hope you are doing well. Turns out my Gynea (that I saw in the first and second trimester) is also an urogynecologist...which means he specialises in pelvic floor dysfunction. When I asked him why he didn't say anything about the pelvic organ prolapse or the risk is around 30 - 50% when I enquired about the risks of a VBAC versus another C-section, he answered that the medical consensus is NOT to tell woman while pregnant otherwise it will further increase the c-section rate...I can't believe that caretakers do not put all the risks out on the table so that woman can at least know what they are getting into. Frankly I regret having the natural birth, the birth itself was amazing and very special but the price I am going to pay for the rest of my life is simply not worth "having an amazing birth experience". I am eternally grateful for my LG but I can't help but to think that with a c-section I would have had all my lady parts in full working order (and the other important organs too...).

Faffymum - Glad to hear from you too!! I was getting worried because you are so quiet. I am hoping for a miracle too, but if what other people share on the internet about prolapse is correct, I am in for a challenge for the rest of my life. It is hard to accept in this day and age with medical advances that there is still very little of a solution that works for everyone with prolapse.

Ditto on the house becoming unlivable!! You can only leave it for so long...

So glad you are taking the Eglynol - for me it was a lifesaver for milk production and the PND. I promise things will get better and if you feel it doesn't please don't wait to get more help!! Baby is getting a lot more easier for us now at 8 weeks, she sleeps longer stretches at night, less cramps and windiness (almost nothing) and the breastfeeding is not as painful as before. I trust that things will hopefully ease for you too in a couple of weeks - just stay strong in the mean time and know that this will not "be the rest of your life". I remember feeling that it is a maze of never ending feeding, burping, diapering, rocking cycle - thought that I would never have a "life" again. With time things really got easier, granted certain things became more challenging, but for me there was an upward curve. As for feeling angry, don't beat yourself up about it, you are not a bad mom. Perhaps you are more angry and frustrated about the situation rather than your LB. Sleep deprivation is hectic and keep the perspective that we are not thinking straight with our current state of fatigue. If you however really feel as if you might hurt your baby, please don't wait to speak to someone as PND can cause you to feel this way. Bonding with baby took very long for me the first time too and I had so much guilt about it. Looking back now I know it was fine, and we formed a deep bond as time passed. Be kind to yourself in this challenging time, you are doing amazing although it feels as you might be sinking.

The topup sounds great. The growth spurts sucks big time. Excuse the pun. after the 6 weeks one I think it is a while for the next one at least. I don't express a lot either, sometimes 20 ml too.

Let us know about the Cranio therapist, don't know the difference between the two?!

Newbiemom, hope there is some relief for the Colic?? Thinking of you - Colic is very very tough.

RonelleB - Hope you are taking care of yourself and staying afloat. Please let us know if you need to "unload" here. Lots of ladies who have gone through the same thing that might be able to support or just listen. xx

Keep well ladies. xx

Hi ladies. So awesome to hear from all of you!
Gloei, I'm sorry to hear about the complications. I really do hope for a miracle as well. Nothing is impossible and doctors don't know absolutely everything. Maybe you will get better.
I am with you on getting a domestic. Flip everyone says 'housework can wait' ... not when it becomes unlivable!
Nels_n, glad things are getting better. Stay strong my friend.
Newbie, eek... hope the bladder sorts itself out soon. I have gas issues. Think it's my digestive system still sorting itself out after c section
RonelleB, I'm so glad your girl is picking up weight so nicely. Depression is totally normal. Take the drugs. I am on eglonyl for my milk supply, but think it's helping a lot with feeling in control. But don't be fooled. . I am not always keeping it together. The last two days in have cried and gotten extremely frustrated and ovrwhelmed. I think this boy is going through ANOTHER growth spurt. I just got into a good rhythm and now he is miserable, whiney, hungry and uncomfortable all day.nights are usually Ok. But lately. Oh my word I just can't.
I have been expressing about 60ml in the morning when milk is full and using it as a top up in the evening before bed. Now I am being sucked dry before 3pm. This morning I only managed to express 20 ml. He must be drinking more? i get so frustrated I get angry at him. Then I feel horrible for getting angry. What mom gets angry at their newborn. Anyways, I know it will pass but my patience is so things now that I get like zero sleep.
We have our good days. We have the days with good sleeps and lots of smiles. I live for those. I am just so tired.

I also want to take my boy to a chiropractor or cranio therapist. I don't know the difference but hubby was against a chiropractor but seems to be keen for this cranio sacral therapist thing. So I hope it helps. My boy seems to battle with latching sometime and looks very uncomfortable. Also he clenches and pulls away when I rub his back. I hope it helps with his grumpiness and latching. He latches and comes off and tries to latch and tries add tries until I change position and then he gets it.

Love my baby to bits. Just wish I could find a pond of extra patience for some days.

Ha Gloie I understand the baby not wanting to sleep anywhere but on the arms. And taking care of the housework and the older kid:(.
Sorry I keep writing bits because I have K on my arms too. Glad to hear you going to the physio tomorrow. Chances are the Dr didnt know much about it or what to do either but didnt want to admit it. Please give us an update. Will keep praying for you
Newbie@ oh no, colic is horrible. I had it with Amara and it was hectic but it got better in a few weeks. Praying baby gets better.
Ronelle@ I also missed the pnd part. Glad you are doing better and received help. Being a parent is tough, then the expectation of being super mom makes things worse. Please take care of yourself and know that you are an awesome.
How are the rest of the ladies doing?