Burning the midnight oil together

its my turn now. I usually set my alarm 4 hours from last feed at night so that i can check on her if she exceeds 4 hours. Usually i dont get past 3.5 but tonight was 4 on the dot. She frank vigorously now for 5 minutes rather than 15 of slow but regular drinking.

Bronz I would not even do that road at night and its been 5 years that i had my licence. Ive only ever been over there twice at night with DH driving.
Vash I agree, dont give up. Will DH teach you? What i did was once licence was booked dh would take me once a week teach me basics in the neighbourhood.

Kraaifontein is northern suburbs close to Durbanville and Brackenfell.

I am 28 btw. Will be 29 in November. Gosh now I feel old We always wanted to start a family at 25 but that year we bought our house so postponed it. Wd started trying for a baby last May and conceived straight away. But had a Mc at 9 weeks. Then conceived in November and here we are now.
Vash I hear you on looking like a teenager. I dont feel a day older than 18 and if wd went to a club i almost always had to show my ID. i always used to show my wedding ring first. And at the time my SIL was under age and they would never ask me.

Bronz thanks for the advice re the weight. The concern for me is that K was a small baby. She was 2 weeks behind her growth, and 10 days early for c/sec and did not eat for a week in ICU. She was 2.83 at birth and back there by 3 weeks. At 4 and a half weeks she was 3.2kg. So she is gaining nicely but still a newborn size. If she had grown as meant and gone full term she would have been 3.3 at birth so at 5 weeks she will effectively be just past the weight she should have been at birth.

Vash mentioned earlier about me boring well. Thanks. Honestly its because there is no other choice and wd have to get on with it. But we know great miracles were performed that first week and she would not have lived otherwise. So we live each day grateful that we are parents and however tough happy to deal with her newborn stage and feel awful with the reflux etc.

I always have so much to say lol. Hope it gives someone good reading.

Vash where do you stay?

Just finished second food offering. With her reflux i have to make sure she gets it all in. She decided to wee with open nappie again tonight. Fun for mom. Lurk burping quick then back to bed. See you between 5 and 7 sometime. Hopefully later

Hi ladies. Well i'm up again. Liam's last feed was at 11:30pm and then now. I guess i won't get longer than 2 hrs stretch of sleep tonight.
How was the drive Bronz? I would be really proud of myself if i were you. DH wants to teach me to drive but i think it's worse because i will be scared of damaging the car! Anyway i will have to try again soon. I'm 22 and a half, lol. When people see me with a ring on my finger and a baby in my arms, they give me these looks because i could easily pass for a teenager. I remember last year when i was in hospital for a D&C after my miscarriage, the doc gave me a whole speech about having sex and using protection and only bothered to asked me if i'm married at the end of the lecture. Well he was quite suprised and then he quickly changed the topic. Chat later ladies.

Hey Ladies

Well I have not gone to sleep yet. We just got home. Was a really cool day. We went to Kirstenbosch for the picnic then to a friend's house in Fishoek for a braai.

One thing I am so proud of myself. I normally make sure hubby does not drink allot so he can drive us home but to force myself tonight I told him he could drink. So I drove from Fishoek to Kennilworth, a good 30minute mountain drive in the dark.

Girly: Shame man the reflux does not sound good. I agree move the appointment to sooner. I wanted to tell you before it took Graeme 3 weeks to get back to his birth weight. I was stressing big time, but he is gaining well now.

I am in Kennilworth. Don't know where that is so will google maps it.

My boobs have not changed at all since being preg or breast feeding. Maintained at a 38 D. But I must say I am really getting over these breast feeding bras. So I know I shouldn't but sometimes now I have been wearing my padded underwire bras. I dont think there will be a prob as long as I dont go for a while with out feeding G.

Vash I was also shit scared when I started to try get it 5 years ago, hence it has taken so long. Try get some one you trust and you know will be patient to take you to an empty parking lot, even now before you get your learners again.

DO you mind me asking how old are you ladies? I am 24 now

I am sitting here chatting and the child has not even woken and the hubby is snoring next to me.

Girly i just wanted to add that you should try to get Kaylee used to sleeping through noise or you will have to tiptoe around and whisper everytime she is asleep. Liam has gotten used to sleeping with the radio or tv on. We can even talk in our normal voices and laugh without disturbing him.

Girly i must say that you're coping really well with Kaylee's heart problems. Liam is 18 weeks old now. He fell asleep at 8pm and now he is up again for his feed. I didn't even get into bed yet! My DH wants a big family but i'm not so sure. My DH is actually starting a new job on monday with a better salary but along with it comes more hours at work. I also think that the money isn't as important as your family but right now there isn't a rush for me to work.
My learners expired a few months ago and i have only ever driven once and that wasn't even on the road. I'm really bad. That one time i drove i was so scared of knocking a bird that was on my way lol. I have to get over that fear soon.
I always felt i had too small boobs. I was a 34B before and now i'm a 34C. I like the bigger boobs but not the sagging part because of breastfeeding.
We bought Liam a Graco swing and that helps me alot because it keeps him quiet long enough for me to eat or bath. Chat later ladies.

PS extra long post cos I am using a keyboard!

Vash hopefully he'll let you have more 3.5+ hour gaps tonight. How old is the little man?
You're definitely not the only person I know who fell pregnant while qualifying and never went to work. If you can afford it, and want a big family then awesome. For me the only consideration is that if things change that I'd have to work, I'd have to start at the bottom of the food chain due to no experience. That's okay when we're younger, but say in your 40's not ideal. But no point living in fear is there.

I really wish I was able to stay home, at least till she's a year old, but expenses vs income just doesnt allow it. Im stressing that I wont find a job that will cover the expenses as I will take a salary cut for a better quality less stressful job and life if at all possible.

I got my licence at 23, and only because a promotion at work required me to have a car so I had motivation. I must say Im a changed person for it. Cant imagine relying on someone else to get around, although we used to have to do things like groceries together which was nice, now its just me. While I was transportless and reliant on others, I always used to make effort for things like gym etc cos I had to make a commitment to someone else who was going with me. Since I got the car, the job got more demanding, and less time, more tired once I got home, and had no one to organise with, so gym went out the window, and 30kgs later here I am!
So definitely pro's and con's.

I went and bought more today - size 42E!!! I am huge. Was a 38d before being pregnant.
I bought the snookums honey dummie today, and she actually seems to like it! I have tried the bottle once with Kaylee and she just doesnt like it. The NUK ones we have have a tiny hole in the teet she has to work hard to drink and it took a lot of effort to get her to suck.

Bronz how did you enjoy your day enjoying the sunshine?
Lol re dummy - hadnt noticed yet...

I stay in Kraaifontein and you?

Hubby got some sleep, but says he was awake for my 4am feed but not cos of her though, his ears were sore.
After the 2nd feed K woke up an hour later (30mins sleep for me), from bad wind. So we put her between us and she calmed down. But by then I was wide awake so I did not get much sleep.

Today's been tough. Had to dash out to buy a few things only to get called back early cos she was awake and hungry. So fed, burped, had lunch and went out again. And yup, called again on the way home so wasnt able to buy lotto ticket or any desert - I'm craving sugar!
We got the Bright Starts swing for her today and she's in it as we speak. But she wakes so easily for anything. So all lights are off, white noise cd on & hoping for the best. Really hope its worth the money! Thankfully my aunt in Pta gifted us with money towards it.

K seems to have bad reflux and maybe some nausea. Sent breastfeeding consultant an sms earlier cos twice today and a couple times in the week she projectile vomited what seemed like all her food out either before, while or after being burped. Its so much it soaks her clothes. She recons nausea could cause it?
We have our 6w check up on thursday but the consultant reckons we should bring it forward to Monday rather.
She is on 3 different heart medications at the moment so I hate to have to add more medication to her day, she really hates those syringes and fights them each time. But she is still so small so cant afford to be losing full meals

We are both exhausted. Kaylee has hardly slept either.
She fed at 6:30 so expecting her to wake up any minute. Then supper, and then bed I reckon otherwise not sure how I'll cope tonight.

See you all later ladies