Feb-May 2011 Mommies

Hi Ladies

Well...Not much news really. Matt still screaming hysterically after feeds. 7pm and 10pm (more or less) are the worst feeds of the day. Usually for the 7pm one he doesnt even settle or sleep before the next feed. Just cries constantly.
Then the 10pm feed I spend an hour and a half getting him to settle after feeding. So I am only getting to bed around midnight
He then wakes around 3ish for a feed and again around 6ish. the 3am feed I try do alone (feed and pump) but it takes so long as my breasts are exceptionally engorged by then (my last pump before this one is usually at least 4-5 hours prior) and Matt is crying for food so I have to tend to him first. Again - this is atleast 1 hour so by the time I pump it's been 5-6 hours and my boobs are like rocks and I end up pumping around 250ml! Then by the 6am feed I am totally engorged again (still from the earlier pumping) so I take Matt to my mom and I pump. Then the day routine is pretty normal. I feed him as he wants (60ml every 2-3 hours) and I pump in between. It takes around 30 minutes to settle him after day feeds. Then we get about an hour and a half to shower or eat or whatever.

My mom has offered to do the 3am feed so I can pump as she says she is awake anyway since she can hear him crying. So that will be a big help. But the only thing is, she is saying I must let her sleep with him from midnight until his feed so that I can just wake to pump (whenever I feel the need) and then go to sleep without him disturbing me when he wakes to feed. So that is really helpful - but here comes the funny part...I dont want her to sleep with him!!!! I find that is something special for me and I dont want her having that I also feel having him sleep with me is keeping up my milk supply (skin to skin contact). I dont know how to say that to my mom?! so I just said that I dont set an alarm to pump - I just pump when he wakes up so I can always just bring him to her. Am I being silly?? I just feel like it's the only thing I have left that "I" am good for since he wont breastfeed.

We went to the chiropractor today. Seeing him again on Friday and Monday so I hope it helps with the colic...those night feeds are driving me mad. Going to catch up on grey's anatomy during his screaming matches at 10pm...

I think I'm getting a bit funny with Matt. Like - at the chiro - my mom was holding him since he was crying and I was filling in the forms. Then I kind of expected her to give him to me when I was done and she didnt. Then she held him while the chiro chatted to us and also while he did the spinal adjustment...just felt like I should be the one doing that since I am the mommy...

On the other hand - there is no way I would be coping without my mom here. And I am dreading to think how I will cope when she leaves!!!! I am slowly starting to hate the pumping...it takes so much of the day...and everything has to be planned around it. cant go out for the afternoon unless there is somewhere for me to pump. I just get engorged so easily and quickly. I am kind of wanting to just stop the pumping and move to formula...although I really want him to get the breastmilk...sigh...

I have to do my driving writing and driving test on 6 May so I told DH he has to leave work for a couple of hours and come watch Matt. He is fine with that. He is taking the rest of his paternity leave from next weekend for 10 days so I am going to have to teach him all the tricks with Matt so that he copes on his own when I go for the driving test. I can see him getting quite frustrated if Matt has one of his hysterical fits...he can really scream like murder for an hour straight. (going totally red, stops breathing etc etc)

MistyMom - hehe shame on you for being disappointed baby is not fully engaged!! that probably wont happen until you are well into labour! Matt only engaged during my labour so dont stress

Schatsie - thinking of you and wandering what the latest update is.

Jessica! Hi! sorry I cant do an update for you this time

Anje - it is totally understandable that you are getting fed up. My word most of us felt that way by 38 weeks and here you are 10 days overdue and only feeling it now!! you have done so so well

Kimika - saw the pics on FB - they are lovely and your boys look so precious in their outfits!!

Joli - saw Callum smiled??? try get a pic!!!

Lucy - I am so curious to know what Matt weighs as he was already 100g over birth weight at 5 days glad the laser helped with your nipples. is it the same as the infra red light?? I am thinking of hiring one for a few days - my nipples are finished from all the pumping. (and its not like you can teach a pump to latch properly )

Claire - not long for you now - you must be SOOOOOO excited!! special baby on the way

BettyF how was your appointment?

Faw- thinking of you with your mastitis and cyst. hope its not a cyst and hope everything settles soon

Rakker - how you feeling?

EmsMom - how's it going? Is Em still over the moon with her little sister? Is your DH totally besotted? and your dad????

Hi Tazzy and everyone else I forgot!

HELLO GIRLS!!!!

How is everyone doing!! Sorry I've been scares things have been hectic on this side! But I PROMISE I'll be making more of an effort to pop in at night when the babies have gone to bed to catch up!!!

ANYONE care to fill me in on what I've missed the last week or so?

Mistymom - thats great news about baba, she/he is a nice weight. babies do not know about moms and their impatience. lol about Betty being before you - thats quite awesome.

Schatsie - thinking of you! Will rely on mistymom for updates but hope you and baba are both ok.

Happy and Sad at same time!

HAPPY - I HAVE NOT PUT ON ANY MORE WEIGHT IN TEH LAST 2 WEEKS, CHIPOLATA HAS PUT ON 450G!!! So i really am caring a little monster....already 3.4kg at 37.5 weeks!

SAD - silly chipolata is still having a blast swiming around in mommys fluid! Has not fully dropped yet , but doc said has started so should be done soon! Once again bugged him for a DD...once again he has said baby will come when it is ready, not when mom is! Was hoping that by now would be fully engaged, but should be grateful all ok with fluid, placenta etc. So looks like this little monster may weight until mommy reaches 40 weeks! BUt still praying for a miricle! At least time does seem to be flying and Friday i will at last be 38 weeks! Had my first internal as well and the strep test thingy. Not half as bad as thought it would be. Wsa a bit mad that DH called 15 min B$ appointment to say that he could not make it. It was my first appointment alone but in the end was not too bad!

No other news from Schatsie yet! I will give here a little SMS later and see if get any reply.

Sorry no time for personals now! Will check back in later!

he he specially came to check for updates from the 3 of you! Wow, so Schatsie might have her boy tomorrow. Tell her I say good luck and thinking of her.

Small world hey! Pls come give an update as soon as you can.

LOL at gynae now...Betty just gone in. Will update when home.

Got an sms from schatsie...her BP is still high so she has been admitted for observation. Then got anouther saying she has had a cortisone injection and she is on a fetal monitor....probably will have c section tomorrow! Will keep u updated if get any more news!

Such a small world that betty and I havve same doc and she the appointment before me! Mad cos DH just called to say he can't make appointment! This will be my first without him!

Sorry so short hate posting on phone...will be back later!

Rakker – well the first and I know its silly is the post-op recovery – I am not bashing anyone who had a c-section, but for me my gynae gave me a wish wash reason that’s its better for me?? I am all for it if it is for my baba (if there is a scare or whatever) though. Wow babs has grown and I am so with you on the rib kicks – eina! Snap on the femur length which is also a few weeks ahead – shoo we really have big babas on moomie.

Mistymom – loving the photos… especially the red shirts one Enjoy spending the day with your mom and getting the last little bits, its unreal that this is the month that finally we get to be mommies (so relating to that) its overwhelming and scary (in a good way) good luck with gynae today, hope baba has dropped!

Anje – eish you have so much patience – I would be up the wall. Thinking of you and hope baba decides to make an appearance soon… way before Friday. I am sorry you are feeling desperate and despondent! Hugs to you xxx

Joli – oh my word R 61 000 is a lot of money. And for driving on a gravel road – one would never have thought. Also your client was not very empathetic, but what can you do hey! Shame man you really are not having a good time with all the unexpected financial happenings. Here’s hoping the insurance pays out and things settle again. How is Callum doing?

Schatsie – shoo about your blood pressure, let us know how it goes today please and take those tablets. Good luck with packing your bags and feel better soon. How did gynae visit go?

Meags – I love reading your long updates, I really hope that it is similar when our little one is born How is the feeding going today? How are you mom? Still so happy about your DH coming around – you really do deserve it… Mommy’s boy already, tell your DH that when they go to school they latch more onto Dad – he just needs to be patient hee hee…

Betty – how is Matthew’s ear infection? Please let us know how your appointment went today.

Tazzy – how are you and your girls? You look amazing post birth!!!

Cath – wow and well done on the check up – such a healthy little angel you have there.

Kimika – Reuben is growing wonderfully – you must be so proud!. P.s. I really liked the wedding photos you put up – very original ideas they had. How are you?

Emsmom – I hope the head cold vanishes quickly and breakfast with DH and your youngest was awesome. How is Em doing with Kate?? She must be super proud of her baby sister.

Lucy – hee hee stranger!!! Tessa is really keeping you busy mom, and I am so glad she has strengthened everything for you and DH. and thank you so much for all the emails - they are keeping me going when I feel yuck!

AFM: going to gynae tomorrow so will come update room and bags and everything ready to go so just waiting around now...