CEASER VS NATURAL BIRTH

oh my gosh Vash. please be on the look out for a vaginal anal fistula. a 3rd degree tear/cut MUST be fixed correctly in theatre!
Sometimes the fistula only becomes apparent a year or so later and in the meantime all that bacteria is building up inside. rather get checked x

Meags the wound was off to the right side and did reach the anus. I never got checked after giving birth but the wound has healed completely. I know that i didn't need to be cut so badly. I didn't even feel my baby coming out when pushing.

10cm????????????????????? This would of either been right through to the anus or into the deepest muscular part of the bum?? this would require surgery under general anesthetic so if you are sure it is 10cm PLEASE go to a gynae and let me check you for an problems!!!!!!!!

Reluctant Mom wrote:

I am one of those moms who get quite heated under the collar when this subject comes up - I chose to have three c-sections, and also felt I was "judged" that my births well, weren't really births by the vaginal set ... but ... to be honest I have moved on, and ... I try not to get so riled up.

I would like to comment with 20/20 hindsight if I may.

Background:

I chose a c-section the 1st time round - no pressure from anyone.

2nd time I had a OBGYN who scheduled a c-section at the 1st appointment. I had to fight tooth and nail to "allow" her to allow me to try for a VBAC. In the end, I did not go through with it and opted for a c-section under very rushed conditions.

3rd time - I went with a c-section as it made sense, and did not want to go through the stress as with the 2nd pregnancy.

I think if I had someone like Nef who I went to with my 1st pregnancy and who was able to guide me and give me the confidence that my body and my mind could get through labour, I do wish I could have a "do over" and would opt for a vaginal birth.

I do feel that I have "missed out" on something to a degree, but my choices were MY choices, and I need to accept that, and respect that at the time, that felt best for me.

But if I could "time travel" back to 2001 and be pregnant, I would seek out a Nef and explore my options and see whether I could allow someone to assist me to have a birth where I felt more in co


<but I do get very pissed off by the often righteous-look-what-I-did-without-drugs tone of vaginal birth moms ...>

Is this supposed to mean ME? Because I did it with no drugs and am proud of it? Well, then, I am not apologizing for giving birth naturally with no drugs... I am PROUD that I could have done so. So there.

Nef, i knew i wanted a natural birth and planned for it. I did the perineal massage because i was so scared of having an episiotomy. I ended up going to a public hospital and when it was time to deliver my baby i actually begged the nurse not to cut me since i believed i could give birth without tearing. I got cut at least 3 times even before i started pushing. The cut was about 10cm long and during the first week of healing my stitches started melting and i was left with an open wound. It is my bad experience that makes me want to have a c sec the next time.

Well, I am pro natural. Had 4 natural births and will again with this baby. (That is my opinion.)

But for the lady who started this thread the following to answer your question:

My friend had 4 natural births and then with number 5 had to have a emergency c section. (I must add here that I hear that a emergency c-sec is more painful than a elective c section.)
Well, she said she would rather have 100 natural births than ever have a c section again. The pain with c section is much worse than natural.

Hope you will have peace with your choice, whatever you chose.

1st timer, lots of babies are born with cords around their necks. most babies I have delivered have cords around the neck. it is only an issue if it is wound tightly and cutting off oxygen supply to baby. If this was your case, baby would of most likely needed to be resuscitated after birth. not saying your choice was wrong at all, as you got the birth that you wanted and that you enjoyed and that is the most important thing. just explaining about the cord