What will you never allow your child to....

Yikes me too!

Jade is at the "why?" stage at the mo and hubby usually leaves me to answer most of the questions!

Shame the other day she saw 2 people dancing closely on a music video - that new Sade one - anyways, she was like look they are loving each other. Was very sweet.

Ooh now sex is the one 'talk' I'm already stressing about!

Nayeela I aplaud you and your hubby for your open mindedness.

Yes Kamilah will also work for pocket money

I was 21 when I got married and so was DH. DH was more experienced in the field since he came from a family that were not really practising and therefore more liberate (if I can put it that way). He then converted to Islam about 5 years ago.

Anyways I was chatting about this to DH and although we are raising Kamilah in Islam, DH and I agreed that we would much rather teach her safe sex because we do not have a guarantee that religion alone will make her wait. Rather than saying No you cannot have sex, I think I would feel more at peace knowing that she knows how to be safe if she decides to do it. I know many Muslims will disagree with me on that.

At least if I teach her, she will be more aware of things like Aids, unwanted pregnancies etc that she might not want to do it at all

That said, I hope my little girl will one day wait though but I have no guarantee on that.

Claire A wrote:

I have broken 99% of my "hard & fast" rules already, not because I am soft, but because I was being unrealistic.

I can relate.

I think I will have to remind myself of how I felt being a teenager and what would have been reasonable then. A flat out no is just not good enough.

As for religion. I am opposed to it for my own personal reasons. I am spiritual and practice mindfulness, but am not keen in the man made concept of religion (please again my feelings), however if Dylan wants to explore religion I have no issue. I will expect him to explore all faiths though so that he can make an informed choice.

Dylan will also work for money.

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After having a very heated similar topic on another forum that just made me MAD, I am glad to see that your topic is so light and so much fun.

Nayeela, if I may ask, how old were you when you got married? Its still amazing though that you waited and very beautiful.

What I wont allow, I cannot say as I dont know what the future holds, but this is what I would prefer.

1. NO TV while eating
2. Sit at the table for at least one meal a day
3. Pray every morning and every night
4. NO TV in the room-"come watch with mommy"
5. I work for my money and so will you

Cant think of anything else though.