Gesels saam op die pad na Swangerskap

Hopeful dis nou sleg die siek wees! Hoop jy is baie gou beter!

Snoekie dit sal heerlik wees as jy saam kuier. PM my of Debs met jou sel dan add ons jou tot groepie as ons weer kuier. Dit behoort so oor maand te wees. Debs skryf eksamen oor drie weke, so dis crunch tyd.

Jou dogtertjie is darem pragtig! Mooiste liefielyfie.

Cin welkom hier by ons. Hier lag en huil ons saam oor suksesse en teleurstellings. Of dit jou eerste, tweede of derde babatjie is wat jy TTC!

Hi Julle ek loer net gou in, ek is frot van die verkoue alweer dit is nou al die 3de een van dat ek swanger is en ek raak gewoonlik nooit siek nie

Zarah ek will net vir jou se ons is almal baie life vir jou en onderstuen jou kuese. Ons gaan jou baie mis maar hoop jy sal binnekort weer terug wees hier by ons!!! Groot drukkie vir jou!!!!

Halloooo Dames,

Lagogies,
VREESLIK BAIE GELUK!!!!! Mag jy 'n wonderlike reis he na daai kleine lyfie in jou arms!
Sterkte met die wag vir die scan!

Zarah,
Alle Sterkte vriendin,
Ek dink dit is baie goeie idee om met iemand te gaan praat. En al gaan ons jou vreeslik baie mis verstaan ons dat jy bietjie moet wegbreek. Maar onthou net ons dink nog almal aan jou en bid vir jou!

Ai julle, ek is so besig met die werk, en kry nie my bas geswaai om meer gereeld te kom inloer nie, maar weet net ek dink daagliks aan ieder en elk van julle.

Baie welkom aan al die nuwe "gesiggies"!

Aan die girls wat hier in Pta gekuier het, ek sal volgende keer graag saam wil kuier, ek woon ook hier in Pta.

Naomi,
Ek is baie jammer oor jou verlies en dat daai boointjie nie kon klou nie!

Chrizzie,
Ek hoop die sitrosoda sort daai infeksie sommer gou uit en dat jy die antibiotika kan skip!

Zettie,
Daai reading klink interesant vrou.

Ek weet ek het sommer baie van julle wonderlike dames gemis, Jammer maar ek sal nou eers weer moet terug gaan en lees...

AFM,
Soos ek genoem het ek voel soos afkop hoender op die oomblik.
My dogtertjie was by 'n kinderpartytjie gister. Die was Prinse en Prinsesse partytjie, so toe maak ek vir haar 'n sneeuwytjie pakkie.




Hierdie was die koek wat ek gehelp het om te maak.

Hi mensies, mens sal dink nadat mens twee kindertjies het mens maklik sal swanger raak met nr 3... ekt dit pil laas jaar november gelos.... Gynie toe Julie 2013 en ek OV glad nie....Gynie toe vir my 50mg Clomid gegee, Aug 2013 daarmee begin... en BFN eks vandag CD9 het clomid dag 3-7 gedrink... hoop maar ek raak die maand swanger!!! en met almal om 'n mens wat swanger raak kan mens nie help om net hartseer tevoel nie, my gemoed is net bitter laag vandag....

Kyk wat lees ek op Anyone Else trying for a 2014 Baby ...

Here are ten words I would use to describe how infertility feels:

1. Lonely. We saw couple after couple get pregnant before us, our best friends included. When they told us, we high-fived them, then we went home, and hardly knew what to say to each other. We felt lost, sad, and even lonelier than before. We were excited for them; we were just very sad for us.

It’s okay to go home and cry your eyes out when your friends get pregnant.

2. Exposed. Everybody wants to give you advice, and some people say incredibly stupid things. My favorite: “You just need to stop trying so hard!” Some people want to know every excruciating detail of what you’re doing to get pregnant. Suddenly, your most private details are the subject of casual conversation. Once people know you’re trying, people want to know how it’s going, if you’ve done artificial insemination, if you’d consider IVF, and how it felt in that small white room with the gross leather chair & the bad magazines.

It’s okay to avoid the question, smile, and change the subject. Keep as many things private as you can (except to a few trusted friends).

3. On Hold. We were always checking the calendar, wondering if we should plan that vacation, or that work trip, because what if we’re pregnant? Then we stopped doing that, because we would have never lived if we would have scheduled everything around a “what if.”

It’s okay to miss a month or two; you have to live your life. This is hard, but over the long haul, it will create more stress if you feel so trapped that you can’t plan anything. We even found that it’s good to take a month off now and then.

4. Invaded. For women, there are so many things entering your body (probes, needles, drugs) and so many people measuring your progress. Even sex, at the mercy of a calendar or a temperature reading, can feel invasive. The loss of control can almost merge into a loss of self. But, it feels like once you’ve started down this road, there’s no stopping until you get pregnant.

It’s okay to say what you need, and it’s okay to shore up your boundaries in whatever ways you can.

5. Awkward. During one of the first visits where I was given the small cup and ceremoniously ushered into the small room, I actually ran into some people from my church afterwards. Of course they had their baby with them. I had a small cup that contained very personal contents with me. They asked, “What are you doing here?” I mean, what do you say?

It’s okay to laugh at yourself sometimes. And when someone catches you with your cup in your hand, that’s all you can do.

6. Angry. Unfair is the password that gets you into the infertility club. Mary tells a story of a friend asking her if she was angry with God. “No!” she blurted. “I’m angry at pregnant women!” She knew this was irrational, but she also knew that it was good for her soul to be honest in safe places. You actually may be angry with God, and you may need to find some safe places to be honest about that.

It’s okay to express the darkness, even the stuff you’re terribly embarrassed about, because it’s good for your soul. But in the right places, with people who can handle it.

7. Stressed. Even though it seems like a stressed out couple is less likely to get pregnant, The American Society for Reproductive Medicine finds that there is no proof stress causes infertility. Besides, trying hard to “not be so stressed about it” never worked for us. It also didn’t help to “just stop trying.” Everybody has a friend who was infertile for 73 years, and the day they stopped trying, they got pregnant. That never happened with us.

It’s okay to be stressed. Don’t stress about your stress. Trying hard not to be stressed is silly.

8. Despair. The cycle of hope and despair with infertility can take you out. I remember getting so excited when Mary was 2 days late, and just knowing that this time, it’s going to happen! Then, a few days or hours later, when she told me she got “it,” I would plunge into despair. The alternative is to temper your hope so that your despair doesn’t get so low. After about a hundred months of experiencing this cycle, we found that the best route is to keep hoping, and if it doesn’t happen, keep crying. It’s too hard to pretend that you’re not excited and that you’re not depressed. Be excited. Be depressed.

It’s okay to hope, and it’s okay to cry. Keep hoping and keep crying.

9. Loss. This was not how it was supposed to be. This was not what you dreamed it would be. And you don’t know how it will end.

It’s okay if you don’t know how to wrap your mind around your emotions. Be gentle with yourself for not totally having control of how you feel from moment to moment.

10. Ambivalence. Every time you have to go through another kind of treatment, you ask yourself: “Is it worth it? Do I really want it that bad?” And then in the very next breath, you are taken out by the sheer magnitude of how much you want a baby.

It’s okay to want and not want. That’s normal.

If you’re struggling with infertility, it can be such a dark time. You have to be out loud with each other about what you need, and every journey will be different. You have to give yourselves permission to do this journey in whatever way makes the most sense for you.

goeie more dames,

nella, baie sterkte vir die volgende siklus.

Chrizzie, ek hoop die citrussoda werk. jy moet nognie moed verloor nie.

Lagogies, baie sterkte vir die lang wag.

Kayla, hoop jou siklus sal baie vinnig stabiliseer. dis aaklig as dit so deurmekaar is.

Zarah, baie sterkte vir jou vriendin. weet dat ek altyd ook aan jou sal dink en ek glo vas dat dinge vir jou ook sal draai. mag jy regtig die Vader se seen ervaar in die tydjie