Gesels saam op die pad na Swangerskap

Tinktinie ek jok nou vir jou.

Gou die verslag gaan lees. 4 is top gehalte, die ander 3 is minder, maar het tog potensiaal,

Hi Tinktinkie,

7 gevries. 4 id een en 3 id ander "buisie".
6 is baie goeie gehalte, en die 7de enetjie minder spoggerig.

Ek hoop hul ontdooi mooi, dan het ons darem 2 probeerslae.

Sien jul het 6 gevries. Lekker baie!

More Jamé, hoeveel het julle gevries nouweer?

More julle!!

Fairy jammer oor die BFN, dit suck maar altyd! Next time!

Swartkat ek het koue rillings oor jou storie. Kan myself net indink waardeur daai mense moet gaan. Ken hul nie eens nie, maar my hart gaan sooo uit na hulle toe. Wat 'n emosionele rollercoaster!

Tinktinkie, dankie jong all systems go vir Vrydag. Het ok besluit wat ontdooi sit hul terug. Bang ons los die goue eier ! Ek hoop af kom nou by jou, die gewag is ok nou lank genoeg, en die moods maak dinge nie veel beter nie.

Twinkle dankie vir die mooi stukkie. Het dit geniet.

Beehen, ek sal ok beslis vir ML sommer vinnigvinnig tydskrif laat nader trek. Stem saam met Tinktinkie, dis regtig nei groot storie nie, en ek dink baie belangrik om te weet dat die oukies okey is. Hou ons op hoogte.

Hello Wanda!! Jy moet laat weet wats jou status!

En hello Meisiekind!!

Lekker dag julle

Hi hi,

Fairychild,jammer oor die bfn, maar moenie moed verloor nie, jul is nog 'early days! Dag hoeveel het jy getoets?

Twinkle, dankie! Dis n pastoor se artikel nè? Ek onthou ekt op sy website afgekom toe ons net begin ttc het, die stuk gelees en gedink: dankie tog ek sal nooit sukkel nie... Ha! Hoe naive!

Wanda, dis baie vreemd dat dr nie vir jou vorms vir bloedtoetse gegee het nie? Dalk kan jy bel en vra vir dit? Stertke vie die wag!

Beehen,lekker om weer van jou te hoor... Jong, ek sou sommer vir manlief laaaaankal lab toe getrek het vir sy SA, voel net dit help nie vrou se lyf kom reg ,aar niemand is seker hoe lyk dinge aan die man se kant nie

Jame, hoe lyk dit aan jou kant?? All systems go vir Vrydag???

Meisiekind, my hart breek vir jou vriendin. Ons glo saam dat alles positief sal wees, asb kom laat weet wat hul uitslag is? Hoe voel jy?

Afm. Ons vier vandag ons 3jr van ttc. Ha! Selfs gecheers op dit :-p
my geduld word woes getoets, het baie erge hoofpyn en voel sommer nt sat en simpel, hopelik die teken dat AF nou oppad is, flippit, sy kan mens terg, die heks!

Wow Twinkle....SPOT ON! Baie dankie vir dit

Hello julle ... dink so aan elke een van julle.... Hoop dit gaan nog goed onder die omstandig hede....

SOmmer ietsie lank maar worth the read!!


Here are ten words I would use to describe how infertility feels:

1. Lonely. We saw couple after couple get pregnant before us, our best friends included. When they told us, we high-fived them, then we went home, and hardly knew what to say to each other. We felt lost, sad, and even lonelier than before. We were excited for them; we were just very sad for us.

It’s okay to go home and cry your eyes out when your friends get pregnant.

2. Exposed. Everybody wants to give you advice, and some people say incredibly stupid things. My favorite: “You just need to stop trying so hard!” Some people want to know every excruciating detail of what you’re doing to get pregnant. Suddenly, your most private details are the subject of casual conversation. Once people know you’re trying, people want to know how it’s going, if you’ve done artificial insemination, if you’d consider IVF, and how it felt in that small white room with the gross leather chair & the bad magazines.

It’s okay to avoid the question, smile, and change the subject. Keep as many things private as you can (except to a few trusted friends).

3. On Hold. We were always checking the calendar, wondering if we should plan that vacation, or that work trip, because what if we’re pregnant? Then we stopped doing that, because we would have never lived if we would have scheduled everything around a “what if.”

It’s okay to miss a month or two; you have to live your life. This is hard, but over the long haul, it will create more stress if you feel so trapped that you can’t plan anything. We even found that it’s good to take a month off now and then.

4. Invaded. For women, there are so many things entering your body (probes, needles, drugs) and so many people measuring your progress. Even sex, at the mercy of a calendar or a temperature reading, can feel invasive. The loss of control can almost merge into a loss of self. But, it feels like once you’ve started down this road, there’s no stopping until you get pregnant.

It’s okay to say what you need, and it’s okay to shore up your boundaries in whatever ways you can.

5. Awkward. During one of the first visits where I was given the small cup and ceremoniously ushered into the small room, I actually ran into some people from my church afterwards. Of course they had their baby with them. I had a small cup that contained very personal contents with me. They asked, “What are you doing here?” I mean, what do you say?

It’s okay to laugh at yourself sometimes. And when someone catches you with your cup in your hand, that’s all you can do.

6. Angry. Unfair is the password that gets you into the infertility club. Mary tells a story of a friend asking her if she was angry with God. “No!” she blurted. “I’m angry at pregnant women!” She knew this was irrational, but she also knew that it was good for her soul to be honest in safe places. You actually may be angry with God, and you may need to find some safe places to be honest about that.

It’s okay to express the darkness, even the stuff you’re terribly embarrassed about, because it’s good for your soul. But in the right places, with people who can handle it.

7. Stressed. Even though it seems like a stressed out couple is less likely to get pregnant, The American Society for Reproductive Medicine finds that there is no proof stress causes infertility. Besides, trying hard to “not be so stressed about it” never worked for us. It also didn’t help to “just stop trying.” Everybody has a friend who was infertile for 73 years, and the day they stopped trying, they got pregnant. That never happened with us.

It’s okay to be stressed. Don’t stress about your stress. Trying hard not to be stressed is silly.

8. Despair. The cycle of hope and despair with infertility can take you out. I remember getting so excited when Mary was 2 days late, and just knowing that this time, it’s going to happen! Then, a few days or hours later, when she told me she got “it,” I would plunge into despair. The alternative is to temper your hope so that your despair doesn’t get so low. After about a hundred months of experiencing this cycle, we found that the best route is to keep hoping, and if it doesn’t happen, keep crying. It’s too hard to pretend that you’re not excited and that you’re not depressed. Be excited. Be depressed.

It’s okay to hope, and it’s okay to cry. Keep hoping and keep crying.

9. Loss. This was not how it was supposed to be. This was not what you dreamed it would be. And you don’t know how it will end.

It’s okay if you don’t know how to wrap your mind around your emotions. Be gentle with yourself for not totally having control of how you feel from moment to moment.

10. Ambivalence. Every time you have to go through another kind of treatment, you ask yourself: “Is it worth it? Do I really want it that bad?” And then in the very next breath, you are taken out by the sheer magnitude of how much you want a baby.

It’s okay to want and not want. That’s normal.

If you’re struggling with infertility, it can be such a dark time. You have to be out loud with each other about what you need, and every journey will be different. You have to give yourselves permission to do this journey in whatever way makes the most sense for you.

My blessing for you as you struggle: May God give you what you need, when you need it, over and over and over again